Have you ever been accused of over analyzing someone after a date?
While it's important to ask questions and do some investigating, we also have to remember that you're going to learn more about a person through experiences vs asking them direct questions. People can be great interviewers and know exactly what to say on a date, but if you really want to know them, they need to let their guard down, relax, and show you who they are.
My advice is to just take it easy and have fun. Focus on the characteristics of a person that are the most important - their values, ability to commit, honesty, etc. Remember this isn't a new car you're inspecting to ensure there aren't any scratches on. She's not going to be perfect all the time, but if the fundamentals are there, that's what really matters. Think about the relationship you want 5, 10, 20, and 50 yrs from now. Is this the kind of person who's going to be there as a partner for you throughout all these times?
You don't want to exhaust yourself and them by feeling like you have to be "on" all the time. She doesn't want to feel like the other person is constantly judging and analyzing her and neither do you.
We all have our dark spots and can't always be on top of our game. One of the best things about a relationship is that you can let your guard down and show your weaknesses and imperfections, but the other person is still going to love and value you regardless.
You have a tendency to analyze (maybe even over analyze) and critique things. I hope you can just turn it down a notch and approach this a little more relaxed. Afterall, we are only human.
What other tips do you have for people who tend to overanalyze others? Leave them in the comments below. Did you like this video? If so, subscribe and click the little thumbs up button.
Finally, if you haven’t already, be sure to join our free database by clicking on the link below.