Today we’re going to be discussing kicking outside your coverage or in other words dating someone who you think is better or hotter than you.
Have you ever been in a situation where it the person you were dating is maybe a lot more accomplished, smarter, or more attractive than you feel you are? Maybe you felt a little insecure and were questioning why was this person with you? Or maybe you were like hell yeah this is awesome. I've met my match! And then one day it comes to a screeching halt and you're left feeling defeated and brokenhearted.
You try to move forward, but looking at other prospects feels as if you can't find anyone that could replace him or her. You can't change other people, you have to change yourself. You have two options in the situation. Either reset your standards and expectations for your next future mate or step up your game.
This is an opportunity for you to reflect on yourself and why you had those feelings of inferiority or why that person is no longer with you. This is your opportunity to come up with a plan on how you can work on yourself to feel better and become the person who you think someone like your ex would be attracted and committed to.
Ask yourself what you would like to see changed in yourself and write down the steps you can take in order to achieve it. Obviously, there are things we are born with that are beyond our control. For example, if you are 5’5”, you are never going to be 5'10". However, what you can do is look at areas you could improve in order to become more attractive physically, mentally, and emotionally. Doing the basic simple things compound and not only make you feel better about yourself, but the new found confidence will shine through and people will be attracted to it.
Maybe you are insecure about your physical appearance. You can join the gym and start doing classes and group exercises, which is a great way to meet new people and push yourself physically. You could also update your wardrobe. Get on Pinterest and take note of the late latest fashion and styles. Don't just look around at your friends to see what they're wearing, because chances are they need to do the same things wrong.
Also, now that you've spent time working on your exterior, it's time to work on the inside. Your brain is a muscle and it needs to be continuously worked. This is a great opportunity for you to expand your mind and read some books to work on self-improvement internally. If you are not into reading, then find some audiobooks or podcasts that can help you to grow. There are millions of self-improvement and psychology focused videos and articles out there. The more you know the better prepared you will be in any social situation.
Maybe consider taking a class. I often recommend to my clients to take up improv. It is a great way to improve your social skills. Plus you're just having fun. Basically, you just play games with a bunch of other adults so you also get to meet new people.
By writing down your goal and breaking it down into smaller steps you are subconsciously setting yourself in the right direction. I want to ask you what small steps can you take right away in order to Move towards your goal. Now you just have to take the next step.
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