We’ve all heard the saying, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  Today we’re going to discuss why you may need to reflect and look at your past relationships and reevaluate who you think you’re looking for in a match.

As a Matchmaker, I get to know my clients, and their prospective matches, very well. I ask every question in the book to make sure that the two people are compatible before sending them out on a date with each other.

Often, these people have very clear ideas about what their partner will look like, have accomplished, and the personality traits they will have. It's important as their Dating Coach, to be honest with them and discuss areas that they may want to rethink.

For example, when someone is only interested in dating a person of their same ethnic background, they are closing the door to experiencing something new.

Another common thing I see is that people limit their options by not being open to dating someone with children. People with children tend to be responsible, caring, commitment minded and selfless –probably more so than their footloose and free counterparts.

So, all of these thoughts about unwanted baggage are usually misplaced. If you have been on a seemingly endless run of dates with people that appear to be a bit too self-centered or irresponsible, not immediately shrugging off the idea of dating a person who happens to have children may be just what the doctor ordered. By breaking out of your comfort zone, and possibly reconsidering how specific you are about what you're looking for, you're able to greatly increase the chances of finding a person who is a great fit for you.

I know you have some ideas of what people can do to improve their chances for success on dates?  Share them with us and leave them in the comments below.