There are some red flags to look out for when it comes to knowing whether or not your partner is still invested in your future. Red flags aren't necessarily the end--if you catch them early enough, you may be able to clear up miscommunications, figure out what's going on, and set your relationship back on course.

Red Flags To Look Out For


1. Secretive behavior

Are they suddenly getting more phone calls than they used to, and taking the calls in a different room? Are they protective to make sure you don't glance over at his text messages? This is a clear sign that something relationship-threatening is happening.

2. Accusing you of pulling away or cheating

A common defense maneuver your partner may try is to project their own behavior onto you. This may be spurred by a guilty conscience.

3. Neglecting your needs in bed

Did your partner used to take the time to make sure you're getting what you need from the sexual relationship, but now goes quickly and selfishly only makes sure their own needs are being fulfilled? This is a clear sign that they are no longer invested in a future with you, and that the sexual relationship is only being prolonged by their desire for the physical act of sex.

These red flags are in opposition to false alarms. Behavior such as being quiet more often, or seeming to disappear into their own thoughts, could be any number of things. It's not necessarily always about you! Perhaps there is something going on at work or in their family that's causing stress, and they just aren't ready to discuss it with you yet. Or maybe they've suddenly started making new friends. You should be happy for them! Just because they are more outgoing than they used to be, does not mean that they are not invested in you. Personal growth should be celebrated, and you should be happy that they've met people to meet some of their emotional needs.

Do you have any other ideas of what people should be aware of?  If so, leave them in the comments below.