Will He Ever Commit?

People are complex creatures and when it comes to love and relationships, it can be really difficult to decipher exactly what someone’s true intentions are and where their heart is.  It’s especially challenging when they don’t even know themselves or tell you one thing, but signs show you another.  We are going to give you three signs that are definite giveaways that he may never commit to you or anyone else in the near future.  So if you see any of these, but you truly want a relationship, then you cannot be angry at him when your heart is broken later.  He warned you…

1. Won’t Introduce You To His Family

Rare is the case that he is embarrassed by his family and that you will think less of him by association. If he is dragging his feet in introducing you to his family (especially after you have been together for some months), you may have a problem.

Many ladies think that they’re in when they meet the friends. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Male minds don’t work the same as female minds, and meeting his friends may be nothing more than him showing you off (though it is important that his friends like you). Remember there’s a double standard with society.  It boosts men’s ego and they think they look better if they have multiple lovers.  

The genuine article is meeting his family. Now, it doesn’t mean that the two of you will live happily ever after just because you get in good with his family, but if he is unwilling to bring you into that circle, he isn’t thinking about a future with you.  You’ll also want to take notice of his relationship with his family.  If he has a basic disregard for what they think, then this also may not be very telling of his true feelings.  I know several guys who bring home numerous women to their family, but never really have any intentions of taking it any further.

2. Says He Doesn’t Want A Relationship

Ok. Here comes some tough love … When a man says that he doesn’t want a relationship, what he is actually saying is, “I don’t want a relationship with you.” I know that is hard to hear and you will probably think that you are the exception to the rule, but you are not. This statement is something that you need to take at face value. If he told you he doesn’t want a relationship or doesn’t like to put labels on things, etc. He is telling you that he doesn’t want to be your committed boyfriend/partner/husband and this is your cue to move on.

You might be asking yourself, “If that is true, then why is he with me?”

The answer is simple. He likes spending time with you and he is attracted to you but somewhere deep inside he knows that you are not the one. In the front of his mind, he probably isn’t even aware of how heartless this is. Simply put, you’ll do as a pastime for now, but committing to you would prevent him from finding the woman he really wants to be with.  To put it more bluntly, you’re good enough to sleep with for the evening, but not to stand with in front of all your friends and family.

3. Doesn’t Make Love To You How You Like

Now, this is one for you to ponder. Yes, it is true that men and women are definitely wired differently when it comes to sex. Guys don’t necessarily need as much of a warm up period as women and the emotional levels can be on dissimilar levels as well. But if his sexual behavior with you is wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am more often than not, it has less to do with sexual wiring or true sexual compatibility than it does with his lack of concern for you’re getting out of it.

If he doesn’t conform (at least to some extent) to your sexual hints and directives, he may just be after the sex itself. He doesn’t care as much about your wants, needs, and satisfaction as he does his own; he’s already getting the milk, so why would he buy the cow type of thing.

Here are a few additional no-commitment signs to look out for that we may cover in the future:

  • He disappears for days on end

  • You don’t know the real him

  • Never asks for your advice

  • Doesn’t introduce you to the other women in his life

  • Criticizes instead of helping

  • Not over his ex or had bad experience with ex

If your guy is exhibiting any or all of these behaviors, it may be high time that you had an honest, cut-to-the-chase conversation about your future together.

Do you have any non-commitment signs that should be given honorable mention? Let us know in the comments below!