The truth hurts. I am going to pull you aside for just a second and tell a truth that most people skirt around. It’s a bit painful, but it’s a fact. When a man says that he doesn’t want a relationship, isn’t ready for a relationship, or isn’t the relationship type; no matter what syntax he uses … he is telling you the truth, just a softened version it. Now, this doesn’t mean that he won’t be ready for a relationship in the future, but some things have already happened that have led him to make up his mind about you. Although he may change his mind about relationships, he most likely won’t change his mind about one with you.
So, how do you avoid this? How do you go from a girl he used to date, to the woman that he married? Well, assuming the compatibility and attraction factors are truly there, here are a few tips that definitely work at getting him to commit.
Teammates: A United Front
This might sound silly to many of you ladies, but most guys have sports and war engraved into their DNA coding. They need a partner that is on their team. I cannot fully convey with words alone how important this is. The times that married couples have felt the most disconnect with each other is when they feel like they’re not functioning as a unit.
This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with the guy you like on every single topic (however, a healthy amount is very conducive for compatibility). It’s more about the little things. For example: If you are out to eat and your relationship hopeful cracks a joke about a couple that is sitting across the way, don’t just smile or giggle at the joke. If you at all find what he said to be truthful or amusing, expand upon it. Crack out your own witty remark. This lets him know (in a weird way) that you have his back, you two are a team, and above all, you get him.
Be His Muse: Inspire!
“Behind every great man, there stands a great woman.” This quote couldn’t be truer. In this day and age, we all get so caught up in building our own success that we forget to properly support and inspire our partners. You don’t have to be mushy or cheesy when trying to inspire him, just be honest, constructive and positive. If it is work related and you’re not quite sure what he does, ask him to explain it to you or do some Google research regarding his company and position, then you can give him a real opinion when he bounces ideas off you.
Other Ways To Inspire him:
• Encourage him.
• If he is feeling down, point out past success and the strengths you see in him which may allow him to succeed again.
• Be earnest and respectful when he is wrong. Handle the situation with positivity and patience (he will realize that it is alright to be wrong around you and may not fight so hard to be right).
Roll With The Punches and Don’t Force It
If you have an easy natural feeling relationship with your man and you follow the advice I have given you so far, there will come a point when he commits to you. Don’t try to force his decision, just let nature take its course. Rather than try to create a commitment conversation out of the blue, wait for a viable situation to present itself, like a trip that only one of you will be going on. This could be an excellent time to lightly broach the topic of commitment. He may realize that you may have a romantic opportunity if you’re off jet-setting alone or off with friends on some adventure and he won’t want to lose you.
Now you have three great ideas to help you get him to commit. Your next go-around could be the winner!
Do you have any other tips on how to get a guy to commit? If so, leave them in the comments below.
Always remember You can find the love you’ve always wanted and received the love you deserve. You just have to Take the First Steps Now!