Remember: thoughts lead to words, words lead to actions.  Without realizing it at times, you engage in negative self-talk. This is very powerful and damaging because people tend to believe what they tell themselves.  We are our own worst critics, but we can also be our own Cheerleaders.

By using the power of positive affirmations, which are repeating positive thoughts to yourself, you can work towards building up yourself.  By repeating them you will recondition yourself to change how you think and feel in any situation.

Every situation can have a positive side to it if you open yourself up to look for it. By using positive affirmations you can focus on the good rather than the bad in any situation and you will expect things will turn out well, which in turn will lead to success in your life.  

Think about people you enjoy being around.  They are generally upbeat and happy.  No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer. Like attracts like. By being a positive person, you will attract other positive people into your life who will be encouraging and helpful to you.

Positive affirmations are a necessary part of your daily life.  They will help to change your focus and you will need to be reminded and realigned regularly.

Set your calendar to remind you twice daily to repeat your positive affirmations.  At first, your negative self-talk may creep in and you may not agree with what you’re reading, but eventually you will change the way you think and act.

This is an important step in building your self-esteem because we are our own worst enemy at times.  By changing the criticism you may have given yourself in the past to positive reminders of how awesome you are, you will begin to change your outlook and see yourself the way other people who know you well do.


A Few Useful Affirmations

  • I love and accept myself unconditionally.

  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself.

  • I know I am a good person.

  • I do not need the approval of others.

  • I know I have a lot to offer someone.

  • I radiate love and respect and in return, I deserve love and respect.

  • I have a lot to offer to someone deserving.

  • I am a well loved and well-respected person.

  • I am happy and successful

  • I can make a difference today

  • I deserve to be happy

  • I am a great communicator

  • I pull back my shoulders, lift up my chin, and I feel great.

  • I am relaxed

  • I am a cultured and wise and yet, a humble person.

  • My high self-esteem enables me to respect others and beget respect in turn.

  • I am a unique and a very special person and worthy of respect from others.

  • My high self-esteem allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.

  • I accept others as they are and they, in turn, accept me as I am.

  • It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe.

  • All is well in my world and I trade love and acceptance with the world.

  • I have high self-esteem as I respect myself.

  • I deserve all that is good. I release any need for misery and suffering.

  • I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.

  • I am solution minded. Any problem that comes up in life is solvable.

  • I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.

  • My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive and prosperous thoughts which ultimately are converted into my life experiences.

  • My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.

  • I consciously release the past and live only in the present. That way I get to enjoy and experience life to the full.


Tips On meeting and talking to people:

  • Positive Self-talk beforehand

    • Positive affirmations

  • I am supposed to be here.  I belong here and have every right to be here as much or more so than anyone else
  • Work the room - move around from person to person

  • Look for someone else who looks like they feel out of place and want someone to talk to

  • Look for others who make eye contact, smile, and go in to introduce yourself

  • “Cheers!” to anyone