A relationship means shared experiences, giving time to your partner, sharing feelings and emotions, and love. This is what being with someone must be like. But there comes a time when you feel that something’s not right anymore. Even with all the years you’ve been together the life-changing moment has come. The time to break up.
I’m talking about that painful feeling you’ve never experienced before, and that moment after the break up when you’re asking yourself “What’s coming next?”, “What should I do now?”. I know you’re feeling alone and your heart is like a ball on fire right now, but here is what you should do!
1. Accept Help
There are moments in life when our closest friends and family want to offer help. This is one of those times, and you must accept it. This is not the time to spend it all alone. If you recognize the help, accept it!
It can come in different ways, and from unexpected people, but that person can help you cross that bridge that you’re so afraid of.
You are the only one responsible for your feelings. You are the one that can bring back happiness. So, why not accept the help offered to you and move on?
2. Don’t Contact Your Ex-Partner
This is the basic rule of a breakup. The important thing is to give yourself time to heal and to move on, and this is hard when you’re still calling your ex every other day. You may even be tempted to log on to Facebook for some innocent stalking or send them a text begging them to come back. The thing is, your ex has to stay out of your life, and off your mind.
I know the “Break all contact” rule will be the hardest thing you’ll ever do but will liberate you from the past and help you move on.
3. Accept Your Break Up
An important step to take after a breakup is to accept it is all over. Don’t overthink it, and stop asking yourself “What if?” This emotional withdrawal has to end, and you can end it by telling yourself that your relationship with your ex is over. Keep repeating it in your head and you will slowly allow yourself to heal and to accept.
You have work for reaching acceptance, and I know it is not easy, but it is a very important step to take.
4. Let them Go
I know you still love them, but you have to let them go. It’s one of the hardest decisions you have to make, and you may tend to avoid it, but you have to let your ex go.
Letting your ex go is a hard process and it will take time. Keep in mind that your happiness isn’t limited to this one person. You can find love again. It is scary and hard, but you can do it.
If you stop being afraid and believe in yourself you can let them go.
Have you had a hard breakup? How have you recovered from it?
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