Signs that You and Your Date are a Good Match
It seems that with all the dating apps available, there shouldn’t be any trouble finding a date. This may be true and if you live in a busy city like Houston, you probably don’t think you need a matchmaker. However, it may be that dating apps are really not that great at providing long term relationships that can develop into more formal ties. Modern matchmakers raise the bar when it comes to getting you matched with someone else. Here are some of the key aspects modern matchmakers take into consideration.
1. You Have Shared Life Goals
It’s a very good sign if you have similar goals and want the same things out of life. When you want to get married and raise a family in the near future and they list that as a similar goal, that person is worth ticks a very important box. If either of you only wants less certain and the other wants a more serious relationship—that will cause friction and tension as the relationship develops. Ideally, whoever you date should have at least a shared life goal in common as the basis for a mutually-satisfying relationship.
2. You Have Common Interests
If you both enjoy doing the same things together like watching movies, playing chess, going on long trips, or trying out different food—your date can lead to something more lasting. To be considered a good match based on common interests, you should have at least two things you enjoy doing together. If you don’t have any common interests, try to discuss trying out new things together as a couple and give it a little more time if you aren’t completely familiar with each other yet.
3. You have Common Values
This can be a deal-breaker. Before you even go dating, try writing down what values you have and what values you believe your partner should have. Relationships that are based on shared values can last a long time; those that aren’t simply won’t. Keep in mind that a partner who doesn’t share your values or worse contradicts them, cannot have the same outlook for the happy relationship you want.
4. There aren’t any Deal-Breakers
Are there any lines that you draw that cannot be crossed? If not, then all is game. However, it may be that you haven’t come up with what’s really important to you. It may be that you’re looking to see what excites you, after all, they do say that opposites attract. Maybe you need someone different from you to complement yourself and that two of the same wouldn’t be best.
Of course, this is your preference, but it’s best to be clear on reasonable expectations so that you can maintain a sense of what you believe will make you happy.
5. There is Physical Attraction
This isn’t to mean that you must both be physically attractive, but rather that you both be physically attracted to each other. It may sound like a shallow premise for a good match, but it’s undeniable that physical attraction can contribute to long-term happiness.
These are promising signs that can show you that your steady date or match can turn into something lasting. Finding a good match takes time, so take the time to get to know the other person first before you decide they’re the ones for you. If you haven’t found a good prospect, let us help with your search. Contact us today.