Will You Ever Find ‘The One?’
Hi there! I'm April Davis dating coach and matchmaker at LUMASearch.com. Something I hear over and over as a matchmaker is: “will I ever find the one?” This question is interesting to me for two reasons. Firstly, what defines “the one?” And secondly, who has the ultimate answer to this question? We grew up with childhood fairytales and the pressure of society to “settle down” and get married. But often we are left wondering why our lives are not living up to our childhood expectations. Love and romance are much more complicated in the real world than what we read about in fairy tales or see in the movies.
When people ask about “the one,” I first try to remove the idea of “the one” from your vocabulary. The person you are looking for is out there, but he or she doesn’t need a supreme label. He or she is not superhuman, will not arrive in perfect form, and has issues and flaws just the same as you. Next, I try to get to the idea of what exactly you are looking for in a significant other, the patterns of ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends in your life, and reasons why you might feel stuck.
It turns out that looking for a partner is very similar to looking for yourself. There is a lot of work that goes into dating, and sometimes your significant other is right there in front of you, you just haven’t taken the time to see him or her. When you hire a matchmaker, you will be given insights into real, valuable tools you can use in the dating world. You will work with someone who takes the time to get to know you, listen to you, and prepare you for finding that special someone. You may need a dating coach, you might need a wardrobe consultant, you may need a wingman or wingwoman. The Matchmakers at LUMA can assist you with all of those things.
My answer to people is, Of course you will. There’s 8Billion people on this planet. Why wouldn’t you? Why would you be the one person that doesn’t have a match to? Why are you so different? You have to be willing to give it a try. Instead of living in the fantasy world and hoping that the perfect match will magically appear to you, let’s do the ground work involved in finding you the right match.
Are you ready? Let LUMA - Luxury Matchmaking help, contact us to learn more. Be sure to join our free database by going to LUMAsearch.com and filling out the brief profile form.
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