I meet a ton of extremely powerful and successful men who are courageous, resourceful and intelligent in their daily lives, but when they have to make the first contact with a woman they become timid boys. Approach anxiety is something that every guy is born with, and it’s not their fault. Women can be really rude. Recently, a guy told me a story about a time at a lounge when he went up to say Hi to a woman and she literally responded, “What makes you think you can talk to me.” As if she was way too good for him and he wasn’t worthy of breathing the same air as her. Talk about brutal.
I’m sure that you’ve also started to fumble or stutter when you wanted to approach someone you liked. You’ve even told yourself excuses like ‘I’m not in the mood right now’, or ‘He or she looks too busy or looks like a stuck up beep’. Fortunately, I have some ways on how to defeat approach anxiety and how to approach people that really work.
Call us old-fashioned, but the matchmakers at Luma believe that the way to a girl’s heart is by being a gentleman. Our matchmakers in Chicago talked to several single, successful ladies in and around the state, and, though they have diverse preferences in looks, interests, and careers, they all want a man who’s poised and polished; someone considerate of their date.
Most people get the first date jitters. They get really, really nervous before first dates that they actually dread going on them. It’s something normal. We’ve all been there.
Now, let me tell you about one of my good friends, Mark. He saw this beautiful woman standing right in front of him at the coffee shop and, getting over his anxiety, he made the first move and said ‘Hi’!’ As they chatted, Mark was attracted to her chocolate-brown long hair, green eyes, and charming personality. He wanted to see her again, so he asked her on a first date. In the hours before the date, he got restless and started to feel these huge knots in his stomach. He even called me to ask me if he should cancel the date.
Does this sound familiar? Have you ever felt this nervous while dating, or when asking for a number? Well, here are some tips for calming your nerves and getting over the jitters.
Dating has drastically changed over the last few years. Today, when it comes to finding love, we don’t think of a romantic chance encounter anymore. Technology has changed the way we live in so many ways, and that includes the process of finding love.
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